Monday, February 14, 2011
Shouldn't they be a source of comfort?
My husband and I have been TTC for almost two years, only the last 7 months of which I've actually been ovulating on Serophene, so calculate it as you will. Anyway, his sister and brother-in-law each had major fertility issues, tried for a few years, was diagnosed with PCOS and a chromosomal issue, went on Metformin, etc. and were just about to start IUIs when bang! Pregnant. Her doctor didn't believe her when she called to schedule a beta - that's how low her chances were. Anyway, fast forward to yesterday, my husband's birthday. We had just told her that we were pretty sure our second IUI didn't take and that we were pretty gutted about it. My husband then asked what was new with them, and the FIRST WORDS out of her mouth were, "well, we're keeping busy with the little one...it's so all consuming, you know?". Um, actually, no. We don't know. I should have prefaced this with the fact that they are an extremely selfish couple that does not make the time for others, but expects us to drop everything when my niece is in the mood. Arrrrgh. I love my niece and she's a pretty smart little cookie, but it's so hurtful, primarily because my sister-in-law has been there and in my mind, should be more empathetic. I have vowed that when we finally do become parents, my husband and I will be compassionate to those who are in my shoes now. People that haven't struggled just have no comprehension of the pain, and it's a real shame when those that have gone through it seem to forget and can be so hurtful. (fyi, this is only one small example of the insensitivity we've dealt with from her)
Submitted by KMP
Submitted by KMP