You don't have kids

I went to a parade of Christmas lights, an event aimed at children, as it ended with Santa.  I went with my friend's family, which includes her 3.5 y/o son.  It was a cold night and we all agreed that maybe we'd sit this one out next year, and just watch from home.  Another friend of mine commented on FB that her family planned to make it their annual family tradition.  When I shared with her our thoughts on the parade, her reply was, "Erin-you don't have kids yet haha."  I kept my reply tactful, just saying, "No, I went with my friend and her 3.5 y/o, so I got the parent perspective."  I unleashed on Twitter, however, "And ty very much to the 'friend' who pointed out the obvious: "Erin, you don't have kids." #STFUFertiles"

Erin

http://everybranch.blogspot.com

Merry Christmas, I'm Pregnant

I have a "friend" (I say the term loosely because my husband is friends with her husband, though I don't like her that much) who has been struggling with infertility.  She would always ask me questions about treatments because I'm the more "experienced" one, with two IVF's and a miscarriage under my belt.  This January was to be her first IVF cycle.  Last night, ON CHRISTMAS DAY, she emails me to tell me that her and her husband got pregnant on their final Clomid/injection cycle and she's now 12 weeks pregnant.

I appreciated that she wanted to tell me personally before the news gets out on Facebook, but did she have to do in ON CHRISTMAS DAY?  Especially when I'm trying to pump myself full of optimism for my upcoming FET cycle?  FML.

Submitted by Anonymous

Facing Infertility & Insensitivity

I may have the coup de gras of insensitivity. I was interviewed a few weeks ago about a piece on surviving the holidays as an infertile for AOL's site Parentdish. The article performed so well that about a week later they placed in on the home page of AOL, which is when a commenting firestorm began. You can check it out here: http://www.parentdish.com/2010/11/23/tips-for-facing-infertility-during-the-holidays/


And my retort on my blog here: http://theinadequateconception.blogspot.com/2010/12/fallout.html

LOVE your site and what you're doing for all of us infertiles!



Lori
author, The Inadequate Conception - coming soon!
http://www.theinadequateconception.com/

Right now, they ARE my babies

With Halloween coming up this weekend, I ordered costumes online for my two dogs.

When they got here, I put them on my dogs and, using treats for bribery, took some photos of them.

I posted a photo of the two of them on my facebook page. An aunt (who while she may not know the specific details, knows we've had "trouble" ttc) commented: "You have too much time on your hands!"

Really? Is that what you are going to tell my sister when she posts pictures of her two year old in his costume? Is that what you will tell the parents who bring their kids in their fifty dollar costumes trick or treating to your door?

Oh, and for the record? If we finally DO get pregnant and have babies, I probably will STILL take pictures of my dogs in costume at Halloween. Maybe I'll even buy a matching one for the kid.

Just Me
http://breakatthebend.blogspot.com